Blog Series on PTSD Treatment Options Coming Soon

Over the next few weeks, Hope For The Warriors® will feature a blog series dedicated to presenting viable, holistic alternatives to the treatment of PTSD. The goal of this series is to start a conversation highlighting therapy choices that are now considered alternatives and present them as core treatment options for short- and long-term PTSD. We aim to demonstrate how these therapies have gained respect for their effectiveness. With the growing amount of research to support these therapy options, including art therapy, Reiki, yoga, mindfulness practices, and several more, there has been expansion in their popularity and we look forward to sharing more information on them. Look out for some great information on these topics in the coming weeks!


Next Week’s Topic: Art Therapy

Resolution 2015: Find Myself & Enjoy Myself, A Caregivers Journey

2015... Holy Smokes 

It’s been almost eight years since my husband came home from war. Where did the time go? It seems like yesterday we were waiting at my husband’s various doctor appointments with kids in tow. I can close my eyes today and vividly picture the waiting room, the magazines, the nurses and the patients sitting next to us at appointments. I can still see the concerned faces of family members sitting next to their soldiers as we all waited together.  

"SGT Katter" a nurse would call out after opening the door that connected the waiting room to the nurses’ station where my husband would walk in, get weighed and have his blood pressure checked just before seeing the doctor.  

Sometimes, I wonder how eight years could have flown by so quickly. I wonder how my kids grew up so quickly and how I could already be 40 years old! How did I go from thin to chunky or from energetic to lethargic?  

On New Year’s Eve, I looked at myself closely in the mirror. I examined the fine lines around my eyes and my dulling skin. Don’t get me going on the white hairs popping out all around my hairline.  

In the past eight years, life has dished out quite a bit. Not only have I cared for my husband but my mother is also battling cancer. She has three to six months to live. My youngest daughter needs me to take her to doctor’s appointments. She has something called Ehlers Danlos Syndrome. Our family moved to another state this summer forcing us into new schools, new doctors, a new church, and the list goes on. 

Not JUST a Caregiver 

I have learned, I'm not "JUST" a Caregiver to my husband. I am a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, and a friend. I've decided that the year, 2015 will be my RESOLUTION year. Just exactly what is a resolution? I decided to look up the word resolution in the Merriam-Webster Dictionary online.  

res·o·lu·tion 

 noun \ˌre-zə-ˈlü-shən\ 

: the act of finding an answer or solution to a conflict, problem, etc. : the act of resolving something 

My Resolutions, What I Can Control 

I don't think I'll ever find an "answer" to why my husband was injured in war, or why good people were hurt and killed. I believe sometimes there just isn't an answer.  

However, I do have the answer to some things. How did I go from thin to chunky, how did I lose energy and how come I just didn't feel as good? I ate those extra calories. I sat on the couch more than I exercised. I started to get depressed; I started to let worries creep up on me. I was not proactive in my own health, yet I was submersing myself in everyone else's health. I forgot about myself, that I am the only one who can control my attitude, my outlook on life and my physical well-being.  

My 2015 resolution is to FIND MYSELF and ENJOY Myself. To find more ME time, do things I enjoy, smile more and laugh more. My resolution is not to lose weight, but to eat more healthy, to walk more, to LIVE more. The solution to solving my internal conflicts and outlook on life is to take life by the reigns and to stop looking back at the negative things that have happened, and focus on the positive things in life.  

Maybe you are a Caregiver reading this blog, or maybe you are a military veteran. Perhaps you are a parent or family member of a veteran, a civilian supporter of Hope For The Warriors. Whatever the case may be, whoever you are... instead of making a crazy New Year’s resolutions that you cannot control, I urge you to make tangible resolutions every day that will help you live a more happy life after war. We won't ever totally forget the effects of war, but we can be productive. You aren't alone in this life. We have each other. Once a military family, always a military family. There IS hope. Let's encourage each other, believe in each other and LIVE. 

Love, 

Patti K.  

PS - As for those little fine lines around my eyes and white hairs popping out from the roots of my head, I count those as little blessings along this journey we call life.  

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year from Hope For The Warriors! We once again rang in the New Year by bringing military families and veterans into Times Square for one of the biggest celebrations in the country.

Why New Year's Eve? 

For many of our families, witnessing the ball dropping in Times Square is something they have always wanted to do. However, if you are wounded, the logistics can be difficult or impossible. This is especially true for those that struggle with PTS and TBI. The crowds and noise alone would keep many at home.

Hope For The Warriors works with NYPD to bring the families safely into the city and into Times Square to enjoy the festivities with more space and security. For many military families, this is the only way they could celebrate the new year together. This is the 7th year we have brought families into New York for New Year's Eve.

Our New Year's trip is just one day of work within the Community & Military Relations pillar. Our Community & Military Relations programs engage both military and civilian communities, uniting corporate and civilian leaders, school districts, military agencies, and more to work together with a shared goal of embracing the military families with their community.

Watching the ball drop in Times Square was not the only way HOPE celebrated the New Year with military families. We also invited families to watch the University of Wisconsin basketball team. And, several families and staff joined the Commandant of the Marine Corps at 8th & I. 

In 2015, Hope For The Warriors will continue to reach out to military families within communities nationwide. 

If you are a service member, veteran, or military family that meets our mission, please register within our system. We need to know where you live and what you are interested in doing.  Register today.

Other great photos from the night!

One of our supporters captured this moment on TV!

Miss America greets our military families

10 Reasons to Give HOPE in the New Year!

Throughout the year, HOPE staff and volunteers have worked tirelessly to address the needs of thousands of military families. Here are just 10 reasons for you to donate to Hope For The Warriors® today!

1. A large percent of your donated dollars goes directly to programs that support military families.  Review our financial information on Charity Navigator and visit our website to review our Annual Report or 990s.

2. More than 52,000 service members have been wounded in combat according to the Department of Defense. Their needs will continue for many years.

3. Hope For The Warriors® provides a full cycle of program support to restore self, family, and hope to the entire military family. Review our Service Portfolio to learn more.

4. Thousands of veterans are diagnosed with post-traumatic stress or traumatic brain injury each year.  Still thousands more struggle undiagnosed. Our programs support the entire military family as they face these challenges.

5. More than 65% of the HOPE staff is connected to the military.  Our staff members are veterans themselves or the spouse, caregiver, child, or parent of a service member. We know the joys and challenges of military life.

6. Nearly 5,400 service members have been killed in action.  Hope For The Warriors® supports the families of the fallen as they struggle with the loss of their loved one.  Each is a member of the HOPE family.

7. Hope For The Warriors® assists service members, veterans, and military families from every branch of service.  We work closely with VA caseworkers, military commands, inpatient facilities, other nonprofits, and community leaders.

8. Program support has been granted to families in all 50 states.  No matter where our veterans live, we are there for them.

9. We offer yearlong events across the country for veterans that want to continue the cycle of support to other service members by volunteering, enhancing their health with an active lifestyle, or networking within the community.

10. Because it is our duty and privilege to give our heroes HOPE.

Your support made a huge difference to our service members and their families in 2014, so please consider a donation today to continue the impact in 2015!

Your Support Restores Hope to Heroes Like Omar

This inspiring story of Omar demonstrates how programs within Hope For The Warriors® connect veterans to restore hope to each other and impact their community.

Cuban native Omar Curbelo had aspirations of becoming a firefighter during his 5 years of service as a Marine. But during his combat service in 2011, Omar was seriously injured in Afghanistan. Omar had to undergo an extensive amount of physical rehabilitation due to his injuries, but his own mental obstacles were even more challenging. In his mind, Omar’s injuries led to doubts that he was physically capable of becoming a firefighter.

Leadership Under Fire, Inc.

Omar’s reservations didn’t last long, however, after attending the Leadership Under Fire Conference with Hope For The Warriors® in Spring 2013. The Leadership Under Fire Program is comprised of accomplished leaders from varied backgrounds who strive to challenge the status quo of the fire service. The fire service affords post-9/11 military veterans with a natural transition from the military to a similar profession rooted in the virtues of service and sacrifice.

Omar was one of sixteen wounded service members and veterans that attended the workshop and training session. Omar was able to successfully complete authentic simulations of fire attack and rescue. The conference was the catalyst that changed Omar’s outlook and gave him the tools he needed to face mental and physical challenges.

Each conference participant is paired with a mentor. Omar’s mentors were Matthew “Ski” Wiatrowski, a Marine Corps disabled veteran and firefighter, and Joseph “Doc” Rimkus, a Navy Corpsman and firefighter Lieutenant. With Ski and Doc’s influence and mentorship, Omar was able to challenge his personal doubts by pursuing a career with the Charlotte Fire Department.

Through our Career Transition & Education Programs, Hope For The Warriors® paid for Omar’s expenses to attend the Leadership Under Fire Conference in 2013, where he gained the confidence and the drive to accomplish his goal of becoming a firefighter.

Matthew "Ski" Wiatrowski (Left) &
Omar Curbelo (Right)

A Dream Becomes Reality

Omar has since been medically retired from the Marine Corps and accepted into the Charlotte Fire Department Academy. Upon completion of the program, he will have a job as a firefighter, a vision once stalled by his injuries. Because “Ski” already worked for the Charlotte Fire Department, he was able to oversee Omar’s year-long application process.  This further established his role as a lifelong friend and mentor to Omar.

Working together, Hope For The Warriors® and Leadership Under Fire gave Omar the confidence to pursue his goals, as well as the mentorship, guidance, and knowledge to support his transition.  As a result, Omar’s dream to become a firefighter is now a reality.

To support service members like Omar, please make a donation to Hope For The Warriors® this holiday season.

"Please support Hope For The Warriors® today by making a contribution that will help us sustain programs like Leadership Under Fire. Your donations give us the resources we need to continue to mentor and guide our heroes in transitioning to the next stage of their lives."
--Joseph “Doc” Rimkus

Your Support Restores Military Families Like Patti's

As the year comes to an end, we celebrate hope in the lives of our service members, military families, and families of the fallen by reflecting on the services we provide to impact their lives. This inspiring story of Patti demonstrates how programs within Hope For The Warriors® restore family not just to veterans, but the entire military family.

Patti and her husband, Ken, have been together for 19 years. Ken has served in the Marine Corps, as a police officer, and after 9/11, returned to military service by reenlisting in the Army. He was injured while serving in Iraq in May of 2007.  

Patti is more than a wife and mother—she is also her husband’s caregiver.  She is also a mediator and educator between the kids and their father.  She is the “pillar” that brings stability to the entire home.

Two years ago, Patti began to feel the weight of bearing such a large responsibility. Ken was having nightmares and survivor’s guilt, their youngest daughter had health issues, and Patti’s mother had been given only a year to live. Patti hardly had time to care for the growing needs of her family and no time to care for herself.

Fortunately, Patti connected with other caregivers through Facebook, meeting women that face the same challenges each day. One friend, Renee, invited Patti to join Hope For The Warriors® for a turkey hunting trip for caregivers only.  Patti and Ken have a keen passion for the outdoors, so she decided to attend the trip, arranged and paid for entirely by Hope For The Warriors® through the Outdoor Adventures Program.

Patti and the group were joined by The Turkey Thugs from The Outdoor Channel, along with their sponsor, the owner of Mossy Oak. When the hunt aired on television, Ken was able to see the relaxation and joy on Patti’s face. The trip was life changing for both husband and wife, reminding them of a shared sport they enjoyed before his injury. (View segment of the show.)

Patti (center) and the rest of the group during the 2013 hunt 

Patti found peace and insight during her trip, improving her outlook and ultimately her family’s path. Patti continued, “I know if I am patient enough, something will eventually come my way. Hope For The Warriors® reminded me that I can be [both] a caregiver and an individual.”

Patti attributes her renewed optimism and strength to Hope For The Warriors®. She learned that caring for herself would make a difference to her marriage and her family. She now works with Hope For The Warriors® within the Clinical Health & Wellness pillar, sharing her experiences as a caregiver and military spouse.

Patti & The Turkey Thugs during their 2013 hunt

Supporters are key to enabling Hope For The Warriors® accomplish our mission to restore family within the lives of service members, caregivers, and family members. We ask that you donate today to continue this cycle of support to our military families. Your contribution will go toward caregivers like Patti, who are dedicated to supporting their family’s mental, physical, and emotional well-being. Through your support, you join our mission to restore self, family, and hope.

P.S. If you are a military caregiver and would like to get connected to a private Facebook Network and planned 2015 Workshops, please email Patti [pkatter@hopeforthewarriors.org].

Q&A: Reflection of a 4,000-Mile Journey to Support HOPE

Dean and Taryn Hatcher, a father-daughter cycling duo, traveled across the country in an effort to raise funds and awareness for the needs of today’s military families. To raise funds and awareness for Hope For The Warriors®, they biked over 4,000 miles across 12 states, beginning in Blaine, Washington on September 8 and finishing in Key West, FL on November 23. 

We asked Dean and Taryn to reflect on the highlights of their incredible journey and here's what they had to say.

How did you train for this journey, and do you think it prepared you?

Taryn - We knew that there wasn’t really anyway to prepare ourselves for this kind of ride, so we looked at the trip as being part of our training. I never was a biker before we decided to do this trip but we slowly just tried to work our miles up and test out our new gear with each ride.

Dean - After the purchase of our bikes our first goal was to get comfortable riding them. Then we rode different distances (10, 20, 40, 60, 80,100 miles).  This really helped us both mentally and physically prepare for our trip.

What were your greatest mental and physical challenges along the route?

Taryn - Physically, I was not as strong of a rider as my dad was, so it was frustrating when my legs would get tired and he could go on forever. Mentally, it was an adjustment to wake up every morning and hop on the bike over and over.

Dean -  I prefer to ride in the mountains, so the first month and a half was awesome! It was when we turned South that I was challenged with the mental part of the trip, especially the days we rode for hours into a horizon that changed very little!  

What was your favorite state to travel through by bicycle?

Taryn - I have a lot of highlights throughout the trip, but Montana was one of my favorite states to pedal through.

Dean - Every state had its unique beauty, but South Dakota and Avery Island, LA would be at the top of the list.

What was your favorite memory from the trip?

Taryn - Before we started this trip I could barely run a mile without getting winded and tired. In Louisiana I had the opportunity to run a 5k. I ran it in 30:39 and felt great. I felt pretty accomplished and it was really cool to see how much I improved.

Dean - Spending time with Taryn and seeing her power through some really tough days made me so proud of her!

How did the support you received along the way encourage you?

Taryn - Visiting and seeing familiar faces along the way was so encouraging; after each visit we would feel ten times more motivated to finish our journey. I had many friends I would call and talk to while pedaling every day that made the days go by a lot quicker.

Dean - Having my wife (Lorna) and my Dad along to share each day with us was huge!

How did you and your family feel upon finishing the journey?

Taryn - Accomplished, blessed, and thankful. I wouldn’t have wanted to do this adventure with anyone else but my dad. I will forever be grateful for the opportunity we took and the memories we made.

Dean - It's hard to explain how it felt to roll into Key West. It was kind of bitter sweet. We were glad we survived the trip but sad it was over!

The team is still seeking donations to support their mission to honor service members and military families.  To learn more and donate to Hope For The Warriors® on behalf of the riders, visit their fundraising page at www.hopeforthewarriors.org/SaveItForTheDay.